Legacy is defined as something you leave behind or something that is passed down from one generation to another. A leagacy can be a material item or a reputation that influences others. I would like to talk about the latter. I have worked as a School Resource Officer for nearly 11 years.
In that time I have seen some remarkable students come through the school in which I work and I have seen some less than honorable students come through as well. This years graduating class is no different. There are some students who are going to be rememberd as hard working, honest, honorable individuals.
They will be remebered for their acts of kindness, respect, positive influences. Then there are those who be remembered for their acts of vandalism, disorderliness, disrespect and mediocre efforts in all they did. They will be remembered for their complete disregard for rules and authority.
When members of the faculty look back to these students they will only remember the failed potential. Many of these students will become well known by law enforcement and may eventually reside in a jail or a prison somewhere. The sad part about this whole situation is that most of the students would not have turned out the way they did if their parents simply would have stopped enabling them and made them accept consequences for their WRONG choices and actions.
When will today's parents understand that their child is not perfect,that every child has the potential to go down the wrong path if not given the proper guidance and discipline.
One particular parent is upset because her child has been labeled a trouble maker by other students. Her statement spoke volumes about her as a parent. My son may do stupid things but he is not a bad kid. My reply is simple; stupid decisons and actions often are criminally wrong. Take your blinders off, stop looking through rose colored glasses and start being a parent in the right sense of the word.
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Saturday, May 14, 2011
What path do you want your child to take?
Proverbs 22:6 gives good advice in teaching your child. The scripture gives this sound advice. "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old he will not depart from it." The scripture is revealing to the parents that it is their responsibility to train up their children. It is not the not the day care's responsibility. It is not the school's responsibility. It is THE PARENT'S responsibility. The scripture is encouraging parents to teach their children right from wrong.
This is and has been a foreign concept to many parents. They would look at Proverbs 22:6 and say that it is outdated, it doesn't fit in the society that exists today. They would take this verse and rephrase it to say something to this effect. Turn your child loose and let them choose their own path. The path that many children are taking is a path that leads to a self centered, self destructive life, a materalistic life and life that lacks respect for themselves, others, and any authority.
What is the solution? Parents need to become parents again and not their children's friends. Once a child is born into a family, the parents are to nuture them, discipline them, and TEACH them about the real life and not the make believe life they see on the television and in the movies. They need to teach their children that every choice they make affects their life in some way. The wrong choice can lead to serious consequences.
The sad part is that there even some churches that are letting their youth choose the path they want to take. One youth teacher even told the youth that God gives teenagers breaks so they did not have to worry about the choices they made in their lives.
We are doing our children a great injustice when we turn them over to their own devices. I implore parents, to take a vested interest in their children's lives. Quit defending them when they do wrong and let them experience the consequences for their actions. If you do not then we will continue to turn out genrations of angry, bitter, disrespctful children who will grow into angry, bitter, disrespectful adults.
This is and has been a foreign concept to many parents. They would look at Proverbs 22:6 and say that it is outdated, it doesn't fit in the society that exists today. They would take this verse and rephrase it to say something to this effect. Turn your child loose and let them choose their own path. The path that many children are taking is a path that leads to a self centered, self destructive life, a materalistic life and life that lacks respect for themselves, others, and any authority.
What is the solution? Parents need to become parents again and not their children's friends. Once a child is born into a family, the parents are to nuture them, discipline them, and TEACH them about the real life and not the make believe life they see on the television and in the movies. They need to teach their children that every choice they make affects their life in some way. The wrong choice can lead to serious consequences.
The sad part is that there even some churches that are letting their youth choose the path they want to take. One youth teacher even told the youth that God gives teenagers breaks so they did not have to worry about the choices they made in their lives.
We are doing our children a great injustice when we turn them over to their own devices. I implore parents, to take a vested interest in their children's lives. Quit defending them when they do wrong and let them experience the consequences for their actions. If you do not then we will continue to turn out genrations of angry, bitter, disrespctful children who will grow into angry, bitter, disrespectful adults.
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